Last-Minute Co-Parenting Christmas Checklist
Whether you’re struggling to find an agreement in time or just want to keep things simple, this checklist will guide you through the essentials for a smooth Christmas.
The festive season can be stressful for separated parents, especially at the last minute. This checklist helps you plan handovers, manage routines, and keep the focus on your children’s happiness, even when time is tight.
1. Confirm the Basic Plan
Start by locking in the essential arrangements so both parents have clarity and the children know what to expect.
- Agree Christmas Day arrangements — Who will have the children on Christmas Eve? Christmas Day? Boxing Day?
- Discuss any travel logistics — Will you be swapping homes? Is there distance to travel? Who is responsible for the journey?
- Set clear handover times and locations — Include drop-off/pick-up times and places, making sure both parents are on the same page.
2. Focus on the Children’s Well-Being
Keep the children at the centre of your planning by prioritising stability, reassurance and familiar routines.
- Reassure the children — Let them know both parents are working together to make the holidays enjoyable, even if things aren’t perfect.
- Maintain routines — Try to preserve familiar routines (bedtimes, mealtimes, etc.) so children feel secure during the transition.
- Clarify gifts — Agree on a gift-buying approach (e.g. no competition, a price limit, or simply “one present each”).
3. Keep Communication Simple & Positive
Effective communication can prevent misunderstandings, so aim to keep conversations practical, respectful and focused on the children.
- Use a neutral tone — Keep conversations short, direct, and focused on logistics. Avoid discussing past conflicts.
- Confirm final arrangements in writing — A brief message or email summarising the agreed plan helps prevent misunderstandings.
- Check-in on the children’s emotional needs — Have a quick conversation with the other parent about anything special the children need during the holidays.
4. Plan for Flexibility & Compromise
If things feel tight or unsettled, a little flexibility can help you reach a workable plan that meets everyone’s needs this year.
- Be open to temporary arrangements — If you can’t agree on everything, be flexible. Consider alternative plans that work for both sides, even if they’re only for this year.
- Offer a “second Christmas” celebration — If one parent can’t have the children on the actual day, agree to celebrate on a different day.
- Make room for both families — Ensure there’s time for both sides of the family to see the children, even if it’s just a quick visit or video call.
5. Avoid Stressing the Children
Protect children from tension by keeping adult issues separate and presenting a calm, united approach throughout the holidays.
- Keep the kids out of the negotiation — Don’t ask them to choose between parents or feel caught in the middle.
- Maintain a united front — Whether or not you agree on everything, present a calm, positive attitude to the children about the holidays.
6. Final Preparations
- Prepare holiday bags for the children — Make sure they have everything they need when moving between homes (gifts, clothes, toiletries, favourite toys, etc.).
- Double-check any special plans — If you’re arranging for a visit to extended family, confirm the details early to avoid last-minute confusion.
- Take a deep breath — Give yourself credit for getting this far. The most important thing is that the children feel loved and supported.
A few last checks can make the handovers smoother and ensure the children feel comfortable and cared for between homes.
7. Plan for the Future
Once Christmas is over, consider how to make next year easier by setting time aside to discuss longer-term arrangements.
- Set a date for a follow-up mediation session in the New Year — Mediation can help you make more permanent arrangements for the future, reducing stress for the next holiday season.
Remember: The holiday season doesn’t need to be perfect, but it does need to be filled with understanding, patience, and good will. The children are watching how you manage the transition, and your example will help them feel safe and loved.
How Can Family Mediation Help With Child Arrangements Over Christmas?
excitement builds. The festive season is a time of joy, celebration and family get-togethers, particularly for children who eagerly await the magic of Christmas however, for separated parents, it can also be a period of stress and conflict, particularly when there is no clear plan in place for when children will spend time with each parent.
Co-Parenting Christmas Checklist FAQs
Thornton Jones Solicitors suggest starting with a calm and practical conversation to agree on handover times, travel logistics, and who will have the children on each day. Even if time is short, putting agreements in writing, via email or text, can prevent misunderstandings. Prioritise the children’s routines and emotional needs, and consider mediation if you struggle to reach a compromise.
Thornton Jones Solicitors advise maintaining familiar routines, such as bedtimes and mealtimes, and reassuring children that both parents are working together to make the holidays enjoyable. Keep conversations positive and avoid discussing conflicts in front of the children. Small gestures, like packing favourite toys or planning a special activity, can also help them feel secure and loved during transitions between homes.
Thornton Jones Solicitors suggest remaining flexible and open to temporary arrangements, such as celebrating on a different day or making time for visits with both sides of the family. If disagreements arise, focus on solutions that prioritise the children’s enjoyment and emotional well-being. Agreeing in advance on a “Plan B” can make last-minute changes less stressful and help ensure a positive holiday for everyone involved.
The content of this blog post is for information only and does not constitute formal legal advice and should not be relied upon as advice. Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited accepts no liability for any such reliance upon this content. Where the post includes links to external websites, Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited accepts no responsibility for the content of such sites. Any link to a third-party website should not be construed as endorsement by Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited of any content, products or services which are outside our direct control.
Why Your ‘Final Order’ Isn’t Final: Understanding Divorce Terminology in 2025
The way we talk about divorce has changed significantly since the introduction of no-fault divorce in April 2022. While the reform aimed to simplify the process and make it less confrontational, the new terminology, especially around the final order of divorce, is still causing confusion for many people going through separation.
This has meant that there has been an increasing number of people who understandably believe that their divorce is fully concluded once they receive their final order. Unfortunately, this is often not the case. In this blog, we explain why the language of divorce remains problematic and what you need to know to protect your financial position.
What Is a Final Order of Divorce?
A final order of divorce simply ends the marriage, and it does not resolve financial claims.
This means that even after your divorce has been finalised, your former spouse may still be able to make financial claims against you in the future unless a legally binding financial order is in place.
We regularly see cases where individuals mistakenly believe that the final order of divorce also brings their financial obligations to an end, when in reality, their financial claims remain open.
You can find out more about applying for a financial order by visiting our Divorce & Financial Settlements page.
What Is the Problem With the New Divorce Terminology?
Before 2022, divorce used long-established terms such as petition, petitioner, decree nisi and decree absolute. These terms have now been replaced with application, applicant, conditional order and final order.
The idea behind the change was positive as it aimed to make the process easier to understand and allow couples to apply for divorce online without needing a solicitor. However, some of the language chosen, particularly ‘final order’, creates a false sense of completion.
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How Misunderstanding a Final Order Can Cause Real Life Problems
Misunderstanding the effect of a final order of divorce can give rise to a range of practical and financial difficulties for individuals following the breakdown of a marriage. Without a legally binding financial order, financial claims remain open indefinitely, regardless of how long ago the divorce was finalised. This can lead to significant issues, including:
- Uncertainty regarding property ownership and investment – Individuals may make financial decisions, such as investing in or disposing of property, on the assumption that their former spouse has no ongoing entitlement. In the absence of a financial order, those assumptions may be incorrect.
- Exposure to future financial claims – A former spouse may later pursue claims against income, savings, property, pensions or other assets acquired after the marriage has ended. This can be particularly problematic where an individual’s financial circumstances improve post-divorce.
- Complications arising on remarriage or new relationships – Entering into a new marriage without securing a financial order can limit a person’s ability to seek certain types of financial relief and may create unintended vulnerabilities should disputes arise later.
- Inheritance and pension implications – Without a financial order, issues relating to pension sharing or inheritance rights may remain unresolved, potentially affecting both parties and any dependants.
These risks highlight the importance of obtaining legal advice and securing a final, binding financial order rather than relying solely on the divorce final order, which deals only with the legal dissolution of the marriage and not its financial consequences.
Why Misunderstanding Is Becoming More Common
The Online Divorce System
The simplified digital process makes it easy for people to apply for a divorce without legal advice, often without realising that finances are a completely separate matter.
The Change in Terminology
Words like “final order” suggest something is complete and resolved when it is not. The language does not make the distinction between ending the marriage and settling the finances clear enough.
What Needs to Change?
There is increasing recognition that the language is too simplistic and is causing confusion. Clearer terminology would help individuals understand what their divorce actually does and, crucially, what it does not do.
At Thornton Jones Solicitors, we recommend that you do not apply for your final order until your financial arrangements are agreed or resolved. In some cases, delaying the final order can protect your position particularly when there are pensions.
What You Should Do If You’re Going Through Divorce?
Until clearer language is introduced, the safest approach is to always seek legal advice early. The move to no-fault divorce has made the separation process more accessible and less confrontational, which is undoubtedly positive. But unclear terminology continues to cause avoidable misunderstandings.
If you are considering divorce or are currently partway through the process, we strongly recommend seeking specialist advice to ensure your financial position is fully protected.
Final Order of Divorce FAQs
A final order of divorce is the legal document that formally ends your marriage. It replaces the old term decree absolute and confirms that the marriage has been dissolved in the eyes of the law. However, it is important to understand that while it ends the legal relationship, it does not deal with how your finances are divided.
Thornton Jones Solicitors say that many people mistakenly assume the final order brings all matters to a close, but without a separate financial order, financial claims remain open indefinitely.
Yes. A financial order is essential if you want to ensure that your financial ties with your former spouse are fully resolved. Without it, either party may still bring claims in the future, even years after the marriage has legally ended. These claims can relate to income, savings, pensions, property, business assets or investments acquired after the divorce.
Thornton Jones advise that securing a binding financial order provides certainty and protection, preventing unexpected claims and helping you plan for the future with confidence.
You can apply for the final order six weeks and one day after the conditional order (formerly known as the decree nisi) has been granted. This waiting period is intended to give both parties time to reflect and to deal with any outstanding issues, particularly financial matters.
Thornton Jones Solicitors say that it is often wise to delay applying for the final order until your financial arrangements are agreed or resolved, especially where pensions or property are involved, to avoid unintentionally weakening your financial position.
The content of this blog post is for information only and does not constitute formal legal advice and should not be relied upon as advice. Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited accepts no liability for any such reliance upon this content. Where the post includes links to external websites, Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited accepts no responsibility for the content of such sites. Any link to a third-party website should not be construed as endorsement by Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited of any content, products or services which are outside our direct control.
Divorce Week 2025: Understanding Your Options When It Comes to Divorce
Divorce Week is a time to shine a light on the realities of separation and to help people understand that there’s no single “right” way to divorce. Every relationship and family is different, and so is every path to resolution.
At Thornton Jones Solicitors, we know that divorce is never easy. But with the right information and support, it can be managed in a way that reduces stress, minimises conflict, and helps you move forward with clarity and confidence.
Here we explore the main options available to you when it comes to ending a marriage and how each one can help you reach a fair and workable outcome that suits you.
What Is Divorce Week?
Good Divorce Week is an annual national campaign that encourages open discussion about separation and raises awareness of the support that’s available. It’s not about promoting divorce it’s about helping people understand their options and make informed, confident choices for themselves and their families.
During this week, family law professionals, mediators, and counsellors across the country share advice and guidance to help individuals navigate the legal, emotional, and financial challenges of separation.
Mediation – What is Mediation?
Mediation involves meeting with an independent, professionally trained mediator who helps you both discuss and resolve key issues such as finances, properties, and child arrangements.
Choosing mediation gives you control over the outcome and encourages open communication between both parties, rather than having decisions imposed by a court. It’s usually quicker, less costly, and less stressful than traditional court proceedings.
At Thornton Jones, we can guide you through the mediation process, providing advice and support in attempting to help both parties reach an agreement.
Meet our Mediator
Shelley Wales qualified as a solicitor in 2001 and is a Partner and Head of Family Dispute Resolution.
Collaborative Law – What is Collaborative Law
A collaborative divorce is a forward-thinking approach that allows both parties and their Solicitors to work together to find solutions in a series of face to face 4-way meetings. Everyone commits to resolving the issues open and constructive dialogue without going to Court. This process allows you to handle complicated and contentious issues and find a mutually acceptable outcome with the assistance of their solicitor by their side. This can save time, money and prevent your divorce or separation from becoming unnecessarily acrimonious.
Meet our Collaborative Law Solicitor
Jane Auty qualified as a solicitor in 1997 and is a Partner and Head of Family Law here at Thornton Jones Solicitors.
Negotiation – What is negotiation in family law?
Some couples prefer to communicate directly, agree the terms of their separation and ask us to draft this up into a legally binding Court Order. This approach can work well when there’s mutual respect and willingness to reach agreement. It is, however, important to seek advice before making any agreements legally binding.
At Thornton Jones, we can formalise agreements and draft the appropriate Court Order setting out the terms of the agreement reached.
Court Proceedings – What are Court Proceedings in Family Law?
Sometimes, court proceedings are necessary, particularly where communication has broken down, there are complex financial issues, or safeguarding concerns exist.
In these cases, our experienced family solicitors will represent you with sensitivity and strength, ensuring your rights and interests are protected throughout the process.
While court proceedings can take longer and be more formal, they offer structure, transparency, and legal enforceability where other methods may not be suitable.
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Finding the Right Path for You
Choosing the right route for your divorce depends on your circumstances, communication with your former partner, and what feels right for your family.
At Thornton Jones Solicitors, we take the time to understand your situation and explain all your options clearly. Whether your separation is amicable or more complex, our friendly and experienced Family Law team will guide you through the process, helping you make informed decisions and move forward with confidence.
If you’d like to speak to one of our Family Law specialists, please get in touch today.
A Message for Good Divorce Week 2025
Good Divorce Week 2025 is a reminder that separation doesn’t have to mean conflict or confusion. With the right advice and support, it can be the start of a more positive chapter. If you’d like to speak to one of our friendly family law specialists in confidence, please get in touch. We’re here to help you take the next step with clarity, confidence, and care.
Divorce Week 2025 FAQs
When separating, you can choose from several routes including mediation, collaborative law, One Lawyer, or traditional legal representation. Thornton Jones Solicitors say “It’s important to explore all your options early so you can decide on the best approach for your circumstances and maintain a constructive relationship where possible.”
Mediation allows couples to discuss arrangements for children, finances, and property in a calm, confidential setting with the help of a trained mediator. Thornton Jones advise that “Mediation can reduce conflict and cost, helping you reach an agreement that feels fair and practical for both sides.”
Even in an amicable divorce, legal advice ensures your financial settlement and child arrangements are properly recorded and legally binding. Thornton Jones Solicitors explain “A solicitor can help you formalise your agreement so you can move forward with clarity and peace of mind.”
Support can include legal advice, counselling, financial planning, and mediation services. Thornton Jones say “We work closely with counsellors, mediators, and financial advisors to ensure our clients receive well-rounded support that addresses both the legal and emotional sides of separation.”
The content of this blog post is for information only and does not constitute formal legal advice and should not be relied upon as advice. Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited accepts no liability for any such reliance upon this content. Where the post includes links to external websites, Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited accepts no responsibility for the content of such sites. Any link to a third-party website should not be construed as endorsement by Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited of any content, products or services which are outside our direct control.
Divorce Week 2025: Finding the Right Support When Relationships End
Every January, Divorce Week shines a spotlight on the realities of relationship breakdowns and the support available for those considering separation or divorce. For many, the new year is a time for reflection and sometimes, difficult decisions about the future.
At Thornton Jones Solicitors, we understand that deciding to separate is not always easy. Whether you’re taking the first steps or are already in the process, having the right legal and emotional support can make all the difference. Good Divorce Week 2025 is a timely reminder that help is available and that you don’t have to face this alone.
What Is Divorce Week?
Good Divorce Week is an annual national campaign that encourages open discussion about separation and raises awareness of the support that’s available. It’s not about promoting divorce it’s about helping people understand their options and make informed, confident choices for themselves and their families.
During this week, family law professionals, mediators, and counsellors across the country share advice and guidance to help individuals navigate the legal, emotional, and financial challenges of separation.
Why Does Support Matter During Separation?
Divorce affects more than just your legal status. It can have far-reaching emotional, financial, and practical impacts especially when children are involved. Without the right support, it can certainly feel overwhelming.
Seeking early advice can help you:-
- Understand your rights and options before making key decisions
- Reduce conflict and promote constructive communication
- Prioritise your children’s wellbeing
- Protect your finances and plan for the future
- Find emotional and practical support to move forward confidently
At Thornton Jones, our experienced family lawyers are here to guide you through every step, offering clarity, reassurance, and practical solutions tailored to your circumstances.
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Types of Support Available When Separating
Legal Guidance
Our expert family law team can assist you with all aspects of separation and divorce, including:-
- Divorce and dissolution proceedings
- Financial settlements
- Child arrangements and parenting plans
- Mediation, collaborative law, working together with One Lawyer
- Prenuptial and postnuptial agreements
We believe in a constructive and compassionate approach that focuses on achieving fair outcomes without any unnecessary conflict.
Emotional and Wellbeing Support
We often work alongside counsellors, therapists, and other legal professionals (such as Mediators and Collaborative Lawyers) to ensure our clients have the holistic support they need. Talking to a professional can help you process emotions, manage stress, and make clear, considered decisions.
Financial and Practical Advice
Separation can bring financial uncertainty. We can connect you with trusted financial advisors who can help with budgeting, asset division, pensions, and long-term planning, giving you peace of mind for the future.
How We Can Help During Good Divorce Week 2025 and Beyond
If you’re considering separation, this week is a good opportunity to seek expert confidential, no-obligation advice. At Thornton Jones, we offer:
- Initial consultations to discuss your situation and outline your options
- Clear, transparent pricing so you can plan with confidence
- Tailored legal strategies that focus on your goals and your family’s wellbeing
We understand that every family is unique. Our role is to listen, advise, and support you with compassion and professionalism throughout the process.
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A Message for Divorce Week 2025
Good Divorce Week 2025 is a reminder that separation doesn’t have to mean conflict or confusion. With the right advice and support, it can be the start of a more positive chapter. If you’d like to speak to one of our friendly family law specialists in confidence, please get in touch. We’re here to help you take the next step with clarity, confidence, and care.
Divorce Week 2025 FAQs
When separating, you can choose from several routes including mediation, collaborative law, One Lawyer, or traditional legal representation. Thornton Jones Solicitors say “It’s important to explore all your options early so you can decide on the best approach for your circumstances and maintain a constructive relationship where possible.”
Mediation allows couples to discuss arrangements for children, finances, and property in a calm, confidential setting with the help of a trained mediator. Thornton Jones advise that “Mediation can reduce conflict and cost, helping you reach an agreement that feels fair and practical for both sides.”
Even in an amicable divorce, legal advice ensures your financial settlement and child arrangements are properly recorded and legally binding. Thornton Jones Solicitors explain “A solicitor can help you formalise your agreement so you can move forward with clarity and peace of mind.”
Support can include legal advice, counselling, financial planning, and mediation services. Thornton Jones say “We work closely with counsellors, mediators, and financial advisors to ensure our clients receive well-rounded support that addresses both the legal and emotional sides of separation.”
The content of this blog post is for information only and does not constitute formal legal advice and should not be relied upon as advice. Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited accepts no liability for any such reliance upon this content. Where the post includes links to external websites, Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited accepts no responsibility for the content of such sites. Any link to a third-party website should not be construed as endorsement by Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited of any content, products or services which are outside our direct control.
Child Arrangements Over the Summer Holidays – A Mediation Perspective
For children, as the summer holidays fast approach, excitement builds. For separated parents, it can be a period of stress, frustration and conflict, particularly when there is no clear plan in place for when children will spend time with each parent.
This time of year especially, given that the school holidays often feel like they last a lifetime, can become challenging, emotionally charged and overwhelming for parents. Navigating this can be incredibly difficult.
As such, many families struggle to agree when the children will be with each parent and some may even feel they bear the brunt of the responsibility of caring for the children, or organising childcare, during the school holidays.
Both parents have equal rights and responsibilities to their children meaning they both have the same right to spend time with their children and the same duty to care for them. There is no Law in place that guarantees both parents have to be responsible for childcare during school holidays unless, of course, there is a Court Order already in place which specifically deals with such issues.
What should separated parents do if they can’t agree on child arrangements over the summer holidays?
If separated parents can’t agree on summer holiday arrangements, they should first try open, cooperative communication. If that fails, family mediation offers a faster, more affordable, and child-focused alternative to court. Thornton Jones Solicitors advise that early communication and, where needed, professional mediation are key to resolving summer child arrangements without court.
Steps to resolve summer holiday child arrangements
- Start discussions early with the other parent.
- Focus on the children’s needs and preferences.
- Use parenting apps to support clear communication.
- Consider family mediation if discussions stall.
- Check if you qualify for the government mediation voucher.
Common Challenges with Summer Child Arrangements
During the summer holidays, co-parenting challenges often become more pronounced. Without a clear and mutually agreed plan, tensions can rise and communication may break down. Some of the most frequent issues separated parents face at this time of year include:
- Unequal division of school holiday time – Tensions can rise when one parent feels they’re getting significantly less time with the children. This imbalance can feel unfair and may lead to ongoing conflict.
- One parent refusing to assist with childcare – If one parent refuses to help with childcare or assumes the other will manage alone, it can cause frustration and resentment, especially when both parents are working.
- Children’s wishes conflicting with one parent’s plans – Older children may express preferences that don’t align with one parent’s expectations, leading to disappointment or conflict around autonomy and decision-making.
- Disagreements over childcare or activity costs – Disputes may arise over who pays for summer clubs, trips, or childcare, especially when financial arrangements haven’t been clearly agreed.
- Changes to usual handover arrangements – Summer holidays often require adjusted handovers due to trips or altered work patterns. If not agreed in advance, this can cause confusion or missed contact.
- Holiday plans that don’t fit within agreed timeframes – A parent may want to take the children away during a period not allocated to them, leading to disputes over fairness or consent.
- Issues related to new partners or blended families – Introducing new family dynamics over the holidays—such as partners or step-siblings—can trigger emotional or practical complications.
- Lack of clarity in existing parenting plans or court orders – If parenting agreements are vague or silent on summer holidays, parents may struggle to interpret what’s “fair” without further guidance or mediation.
How to Navigate Co-Parenting During School Holidays
There will need to be a good level of communication and compromise. Be flexible and accommodating, whilst maintaining the children’s emotional stability. The considerations of the children should be considered. It is important to listen to the children’s views, however it is then for the parents to weigh up and consider those views so that they as parents can make decisions. After all, these arrangements are ultimately about them. Keeping children informed about the arrangements their parents have agreed for them can also relieve any anxiety or uncertainty they may have and will allow them to enjoy the holidays without worry. You should consider the children’s needs when making plans, bearing in mind their routines, preferences, and desires . Focus on creating a sense of stability and consistency for them, even if it means compromising on your own preferred schedule or plans.
Tips for Communicating with Your Co-Parent
We acknowledge this can be difficult when each parent has work commitments, but your first step should be to open up a line of communication with the other parent, giving plenty of time for discussions to take place, from a position of cooperation and conciliation – it will make decisions much easier. Remember: tone can easily be misinterpreted in texts and emails, so they may not be the most effective forms of communication. Try to communicate with the other parent face-to-face if possible or, for example, via video call. There are also various parenting apps which aid in communication between parents.
Mediation and School Holidays – What to do when there is no agreement in place
If direct discussions reach an impasse when attempting to agree the arrangements for your children, Mediation can provide a neutral ground to explore possible solutions. With the help of a trained Mediator, separated parents can work towards a plan that focusses on the happiness and well-being of their children.
Key Benefits of Family Mediation:
Mediation offers a faster, more affordable, and more collaborative alternative to Court. It empowers both parents to stay in control of the decision-making process whilst prioritising their children’s best interests. The three biggest advantages are:-
- Lower cost – far more affordable than Court proceedings
- Faster resolution – avoids long Court timescales
- Better outcomes – agreements made by parents tend to work better than Court-imposed Orders
The Government has, for quite some time now, been running a voucher scheme to help towards the cost of joint Mediation sessions relating to child arrangements. This voucher is a one-off payment of up to £500.00 i.e. £250.00 per parent. This voucher can be used towards the first joint Mediation session, making Mediation an even more cost-effective way forward.
The Extended Family Mediation Voucher Scheme
Find out more about the Family Mediation Voucher Scheme including the benefits and how to find out if you are eligible by reading this Blog by Stacey Higgs, Family Law Paralegal.
Remember, co-parenting during the summer doesn’t have to be a battle. With open communication, flexibility, and, where necessary, support from a trained mediator, you can build a plan that puts your children first and reduces conflict for everyone involved.
Some Useful Resources
The National Association of Child Contact Centres (NACCC) was founded in Nottingham in 1991 with the establishment of the first Child Contact Centre. It is a registered charity, and an umbrella organisation which sets the National Standards to which Child Contact Centres must work. NACCC, in collaboration with Our Family Wizard, has developed a Parenting Plan Template that aims to cover most of the issues that might arise after you have separated so that you can co-parent effectively.
OurFamilyWizard invented the concept of a shared parenting application. Its website, iOS, and Android applications have been used by nearly one million people since the company was founded in 2001. The platform allows parents to communicate, share calendars and journals, track expenses, and more. OurFamilyWizard is recommended by family law attorneys, mental health practitioners and courts in all 50 U.S. states, Canada, the United Kingdom, Australia and New Zealand.
Cafcass advises the family courts about the welfare of children and what is in their best interests. Their Parenting Plan can be accessed and completed online. Cafcass say “A Parenting Plan can help because it shows clearly what arrangements and actions you have agreed to meet the needs of your child. Agreeing a plan can avoid you having to go to court to reach such an agreement or have arrangements ordered by the court. Agreeing a plan shows your child that you are putting them first and will always act in their best interests.”
Contact our Family Law team here at Thornton Jones
Our friendly and experienced family law team at Thornton Jones Solicitors is here to help. Contact us at any of our offices to discuss your situation further and to book an appointment.
Family Mediation Frequently Asked Questions
MIAM stands for Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting, and it is an initial meeting between yourself and a qualified Family Mediator. The purpose of a MIAM is to assess whether your issues can be resolved through the use of Family Mediation, negating the need to take your matter to Court.
A Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM) is held between just you and the Mediator. The other party would not be present. The other party would also need to attend a MIAM to formally assess their suitability for Family Mediation and, assuming both assessments provide a favourable outcome, the Mediator will recommend pursuing Family Mediation as a way forward.
A 2020 survey undertaken by the Family Mediation Council showed that “Mediation is successful in over 70% of cases”. This means that in over 70% of cases, separating and divorcing couples were able to reach an outcome through the use of Family Mediation and without the need to take their matter through the expensive, stressful, and time-consuming Court process.
Although there are no strict rules over who pays for Family Mediation, it is typical for all costs to be shared equally. Your Family Mediator will set out the costs for Mediation at the outset so that you are aware of how much the mediation process will cost. The fees for mediation will vary depending on whether you are seeking mediation services for financial matters only, mediation services for children’s matters only, or mediation services for all matters. The costs for mediation will also be dependent upon the number of mediation sessions required to reach an outcome.
For eligible parties, vouchers towards the cost of mediation are available up to the value of £500 (claimed by the mediator on your behalf and apply only where discussions around child arrangements are required) through the Government’s Family Mediation Voucher Scheme.
There is no fixed term for how long family mediation takes. The process can take anywhere from just a few weeks to many months. How long mediation takes depends on the type and complexity of the issues needing to be resolved. Typically, Mediation achieves a quicker resolution than that of the traditional Court route. Mediation can also reduce costs and associated stress.
If mediation doesn’t work, then there are a few options. Arbitration is a good way of having a third-party preside over the facts of the case and make a decision on your behalf.
The arbitrator will make a decision using the same judgement criteria as a Court however comes without the timescale considerations, the increased costs, and the ruling of a Judge when pursuing the court route. Arbitration dos require both partied to be amenable to this route to resolution. If this isn’t the case, then often litigation through the Courts is necessary.
Another way forward is an Early Neutral evaluation, or Collaborative Law, or having a private Judge (in financial matters) assist by providing an indication and guidance as to how the family assets should be shared.
Family Lawyers, and indeed the Ministry of Justice, are keen to keep divorce matters out of court. It is proven that the use of Alternative Dispute Resolution, which includes Mediation, Collaborate Law, and Arbitration, is a far quicker, cheaper, and less stressful route to resolution. This approach also fosters a better future relationship between the divorcing parties which is especially beneficial where children are involved.
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Pets and Divorce: Why UK Law Needs to Catch Up
From dogs and cats to parrots and ponies, pets are increasingly becoming a source of legal disagreement during divorce and separation. What was once a straightforward matter of ownership is now being challenged by the emotional bonds families form with their animals.
As society recognises pets as part of the family, rather than mere possessions, the law may be about to catch up. With growing calls for reform and recent court cases signalling a shift in how pet disputes are handled.
What happens to pets during divorce or separation?
When couples separate, the law currently treats pets as property or “chattels” which is the same category as furniture or appliances. However, most pet owners will agree that their pets mean far more than a sofa or dining room table.
At present, the future “possession” of a pet is typically linked to whoever purchased the pet or in whose name it is registered. Understandably, many feel that this does not reflect the true day-to-day dynamics of their family.
Courts are considering the emotional relationship families have with their pets
In recent years, several other countries have reformed their laws to ensure pets are not treated like other chattels during divorce or separation proceedings. For example, Spain now requires courts to prioritise a pet’s welfare, including emotional bonds with family members, particularly children, and the care needs of the animal.
In the recent case of FI v DO [2024] EWFC 384, the Judge considered who the family dog saw as its main carer and where it regarded as home. These factors were central to the court’s decision on who should be the dog’s primary legal owner moving forward.
As District Judge Crisp noted in FI v DO [2024] EWFC 384:-
“The legal authority to which I have referred provides assistance as to who has principally looked after the dog. Not who has purchased the dog, that fact in my view is not as important as who the dog sees as her carer. This is not who had previously looked after the dog, but who does now”.
This case reflects a growing trend in family law: courts are starting to give more weight to the emotional relationships that families have with their pets. The dog’s well-being contributed to the overall fairness of the proceedings, underlining how pets can hold significant emotional value post-separation.
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Legal professionals in family law have been proactive in pushing for change
The Working Group which was founded by two family law barristers and now includes other lawyers, veterinarians, veterinary nurses, and a past-chair of Resolution, is advocating for reform. Importantly, their proposals cover all companion animals, not just dogs.
In a recent House of Lords debate (February 2025), the treatment of pets in divorce was raised, and The Working Group is expected to engage directly with the government. Their goal: to propose a modest legal amendment informed by how other jurisdictions handle this issue.
This recent Judgment highlights the courts’ commitment to fairness and to practical, real-life solutions in family law. And it reminds us that, even in the most serious legal matters, a dog truly is for life.
Currently, pets are treated as property under English law. Ownership is usually determined by who bought the pet or whose name is on the registration. However, courts may consider practical care arrangements in some cases.
Yes. Under current law, pets are considered “chattels” which is the same category as furniture or other possessions, although there is growing pressure to change this approach.
Yes, in some cases. For example, in FI v DO [2024] EWFC 384, the court considered who the dog viewed as its main carer. This shows an emerging focus on welfare and emotional bonds, though it’s not yet standard practice.
Possibly. A legal Working Group is pushing for reform, and the issue was recently debated in the House of Lords. Changes may see courts take pets’ welfare into account more formally during separation proceedings.
Need help deciding what happens to your pet after separation?
Our friendly and experienced family law team at Thornton Jones is here to help. Whether you’re facing a dispute over a beloved dog or looking to put clear arrangements in place for your pet, we can guide you through the legal process with care and empathy. Contact us at any of our offices to discuss your situation further and to book an appointment.
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Navigating the Financial Disclosure Process in a Divorce: Where Do You Start?
Divorce can be a challenging and emotional time, with a lot to think about. One of the most significant aspects of the process is sorting out your finances. But where do you start? Understanding the financial disclosure process is crucial in ensuring a fair settlement, and in the UK, this often involves completing a Form E.
This blog will guide you through the key steps to prepare for a meeting with your solicitor, helping you gather the necessary financial information efficiently.
What is Form E and Why is it Important?
Form E is a comprehensive financial statement required in divorce proceedings in the UK. It is used to disclose all assets, liabilities, income, and expenses. Whether you are negotiating directly, attending mediation, or going to court, Form E plays a vital role in reaching a financial settlement.
Why Should You Prepare in Advance?
While your solicitor will provide a blank Form E and a checklist, preparing the necessary documents in advance can save you time and money. Certain documents, such as pension valuations, can take weeks or even months to obtain, potentially delaying the entire process.
What Should You Prepare for Your Solicitor?
1. Pensions: How to Get Your Cash Equivalent Transfer Value (CETV)
Pensions are often the most time-consuming financial documents to obtain, especially public sector pensions like those in the NHS, which can take months. To avoid delays, request your CETV from your employer as soon as possible.
- Request CETVs for all pensions: You will need to contact each pension provider to obtain a CETV for every pension you have.
- Track down lost pensions: If you’re unsure how many pensions you have, visit the HMRC or the Government Pension Tracing Scheme website to locate any previous pensions. Your previous employers may also help identify which companies hold your pensions.
2. Property: What Do You Need to Disclose?
When completing Form E, it’s essential to disclose all properties you own, whether jointly or solely, including land and buildings.
- Valuation of the family home: Obtain a valuation from a local estate agent.
- Mortgage redemption statement: Provide a statement detailing the current mortgage liability and any early repayment penalties.
- Estimate sale costs: The form will require an estimate of the sale costs, typically around 2% of the property’s value.
- Ownership status: Most couples own property as ‘beneficial joint tenants,’ meaning a 50% share each. However, note that the final settlement may differ from this starting point.
3. Bank Accounts: Which Statements Are Required?
You need to provide 12 months’ worth of bank statements for every account you hold or have a beneficial interest in.
- Include all accounts: This includes current, savings, and joint accounts.
- Investment statements: You must also provide statements for any investments, such as ISAs, shares, and premium bonds. It’s helpful to gather these documents from your bank or online banking.
4. Income: What Documentation Do You Need?
Form E requires you to disclose all sources of income, which includes employment earnings, benefits, dividends, rental income, and more.
- Wage slips and P60: Provide your last three months’ wage slips and the most recent P60.
- Other income sources: Include documentary evidence for all other income streams.
- Income anomalies: Detail any irregularities, such as a one-off bonus that may not be repeated. You’ll need to estimate your net income for the next 12 months, considering all potential changes.
5. Valuation Evidence: What Personal Belongings Need to Be Valued?
You must provide valuation evidence for personal belongings worth over £500.
- High-value items: This includes jewellery, watches, artwork, antiques, and significant furniture or house contents.
- Vehicles: Provide valuations for any vehicles you have an interest in. An easy way to do this is by using instant valuation websites like ‘We Buy Any Car’ and submitting a screenshot or email of the valuation as part of your financial disclosure.
Why is Timely Preparation Crucial?
While this blog outlines the primary documents you need to gather, it doesn’t cover everything required for Form E. The financial aspect of a divorce can be lengthy, but by preparing early, you can avoid unnecessary delays and additional costs.
Conclusion
Divorce is never easy, but understanding the financial disclosure process can help ease the burden. By following these steps and preparing your documents early, you can ensure a smoother and more efficient path towards a fair settlement. If you’re ever in doubt, your solicitor is there to guide you through every step of the process.
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Which School Should We Choose For Our Child?
Around this time of the year, often an issue that separated parents face is deciding what school their child should attend. This is a big decision in your child’s life, and it is important to start the discussions with the other parent as early as possible and even have a look all the potential schools together to see if an agreement can be reached.
There are several issues that need to be considered when determining which school your child should attend, including whether or not you live in the catchment area for that school and whether there is a place for your child at your choice of school.
If there is a disagreement between you and the other parent, then ideally you should try and resolve matters via mediation to save the expense, delay and hassle of going through the Court. However, if an agreement cannot be reached at mediation or via other methods of alternate dispute resolution, then you need to consider carefully what you want the Court to decide on.
Given this is a specific issue you want the Court to determine, then you will need to make an application to the Court for a Specific Issues Order and ask the Court to decide which school your child should attend. You may feel it is necessary to apply for a Prohibited Steps Order, these orders can prohibit the other parent from changing the child’s school.
A Specific Issues Order (SIO) is a legal mechanism under UK family law, specifically provided for by Section 8 of the Children Act 1989. It allows the court to make decisions about a specific aspect of parental responsibility or a particular issue concerning a child’s welfare when parents or guardians cannot agree.
A Prohibited Steps Order (PSO) is another legal mechanism under UK family law, provided for by Section 8 of the Children Act 1989. It is designed to prevent a parent or guardian from taking specific actions regarding a child’s upbringing without the court’s consent.
There are however often a few misconceptions when it comes to how parents may choose the school which their child should attend. Here are some of the common myths:
I am the parent that the child lives with so I do not need to consult the other parent.
This is incorrect. If you have “Parental Responsibility” (PR) for your child, you have a say in which school your child should go to, this is regardless of who the child lives with.
The Court can order for my child to attend a school outside of the catchment area.
It is often a misconception that the Court can order for a child to attend a school outside of their catchment area. The Court will not make an order directing the Local Authority to change their standard policies and procedures regarding school admission.
Both parents can make separate applications for the same child’s school admission, to the same or different local authority.
In our experience if both parents make applications, the local authority is able to quickly identify that two applications have been made for the same child. As a result of this the Local Authority will subsequently put both applications on hold until an agreement can be reached, or an order is made by the Court. However, if this is not done within the Local Authorities deadlines for school admissions, your child may be at risk of not having either application processed. This can result in your child not getting a place at a school in their catchment area, especially if the school is oversubscribed.
The Court will deal with my application urgently.
If you make an urgent application to the Court regarding your child’s schooling, the Court may not deal with your application urgently. This is because the family Court already has very long lists of cases and the Judge considering your application may not feel your case is urgent (compared to the other cases before the Court). This can cause a delay in your court application being processed and potentially not being heard before the deadline provided by the Local Authority.
Conclusion
If you and the other parent are having issues, it is important that you discuss this before the school admissions process starts. If an agreement can be reached, then only one parent needs to make an application for the child. If an agreement cannot be reached (either via solicitors or mediation), then you will need to make an application to Court as soon as possible.
When considering such applications, the court’s paramount concern is the welfare of the child in question, and any order made will be based upon what the court considers to be in the child’s best interests. Some of the factors the court will consider are the wishes and feelings of the child (dependent upon their age and understanding), their physical, emotional, and educational needs, the likely effect of any change of school upon them, their age, sex and background – and any harm that the child may be exposed to.
Given that the requirements are met (so the school is in your catchment area or is a school offered to your child by the Local Authority) for more than one school, the Court will decide which school your child should attend. Please note the Court cannot order a school to give your child a place.
The Court will look at why you want your child to go to the school of your choice, as well as information about the school including the Ofsted rating, how close the school is to where the child lives, what other attachments the child has to that particular school (such as friends, siblings, cousins that already attend the school or will be attending). Once the Court has decided on the school, the application can then be made for a place at that school. Your child must attend the school ordered unless both parents agree on an alternative or the Court makes a further Order.
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How Has the Cost of Living Crisis in the UK Affected Divorcing Couples?
The cost of living crisis in the UK has profoundly impacted various aspects of life, including the emotional and financial dynamics of divorcing couples. As inflation rises and household budgets are stretched thin, the complexities of divorce become even more challenging. Here, we explore how the economic strain has reshaped the landscape for couples navigating the end of their marriages.
Financial Strain and Legal Costs
One of the most immediate effects of the cost of living crisis on divorcing couples is the heightened financial strain. Legal fees for divorce can be significant, and with the increasing cost of living, many couples find it harder to afford these expenses. Solicitors, mediators, and court fees all add up, often leading couples to delay proceedings or seek more cost-effective alternatives such as DIY divorces or online services.
The financial burden does not end with legal fees. Divorcing couples must also grapple with the division of assets, which is complicated by fluctuating property values and inflation. For instance, the value of a shared home may have decreased, reducing the equity available for division. Conversely, increased mortgage rates can make it challenging for one party to buy out the other, leading to prolonged disputes and financial uncertainty.
Housing Challenges
Housing is one of the most significant concerns for divorcing couples, and the cost of living crisis has exacerbated this issue. With rental prices and mortgage rates on the rise, finding affordable housing becomes a daunting task. For many, the prospect of maintaining two separate households on the same income that previously supported one is daunting. This often forces one or both parties to downgrade their living arrangements significantly, which can be a tough adjustment, particularly if children are involved.
In some cases, couples are forced to remain living together even after deciding to divorce, simply because they cannot afford to move out. This can lead to increased tension and conflict, making an already stressful situation even more unbearable.
Impact on Children
Children are often the most vulnerable in a divorce, and the cost of living crisis adds another layer of complexity to their well-being. Parents may find it difficult to maintain the same level of financial support, leading to changes in lifestyle and potentially reducing opportunities for extracurricular activities, vacations, and other non-essential expenditures that enrich children’s lives.
The financial instability can also affect arrangements for child maintenance and support. With the cost of everyday essentials rising, non-custodial parents may struggle to meet agreed-upon payments, leading to legal disputes and emotional strain. Custodial parents, on the other hand, may face increased pressure to cover additional expenses, adding to their financial burden.
Increased Tensions and Mental Health
The stress associated with the cost of living crisis can exacerbate tensions between divorcing couples. Financial difficulties are a significant source of conflict in marriages, and these issues do not disappear during divorce. In fact, they often intensify, as couples negotiate the division of debts and assets under tighter financial constraints.
This heightened stress can take a toll on mental health. Anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues are common during divorce, and the added pressure of financial insecurity can worsen these conditions. For some, the combined stress of divorce and financial instability can lead to a sense of hopelessness and despair, affecting their ability to cope with the demands of the process.
Navigating the Crisis: Practical Advice
While the cost of living crisis presents significant challenges for divorcing couples, there are practical steps that can help manage the situation more effectively:
- Seek Mediation: Mediation can be a more cost-effective and less adversarial alternative to traditional divorce proceedings. Mediators can help couples reach mutually agreeable solutions, potentially reducing legal fees and emotional strain.
- Financial Planning: Engaging a financial advisor can help both parties understand their financial situation and plan for the future. Advisors can provide guidance on budgeting, asset division, and managing debt, which is crucial in a time of economic uncertainty.
- Explore Housing Options: Researching alternative housing solutions, such as shared accommodations or living with family temporarily, can alleviate some of the financial pressures. It’s important to consider all available options to ensure both parties can secure stable living arrangements.
- Prioritize Mental Health: Seeking support from therapists or counsellors can help manage the emotional toll of divorce and financial stress. Mental health professionals can provide coping strategies and support systems to navigate this challenging period. Importantly – look after yourself!
Mediation is a process in which a neutral third party, known as a mediator, assists divorcing couples in negotiating and reaching a mutually acceptable agreement. The mediator does not make decisions for the couple but facilitates communication and helps them explore options and solutions. Mediation can be less adversarial and more cost-effective than traditional divorce proceedings, making it a popular choice for couples seeking an amicable separation.
Conclusion
The cost of living crisis in the UK has undeniably added complexity to the already challenging process of divorce. Financial strain, housing issues, and the impact on children and mental health are significant concerns for divorcing couples. However, with careful planning, professional support, and a focus on practical solutions, it is possible to navigate these challenges more effectively. By understanding the unique pressures of the current economic climate, couples can make informed decisions that will help them move forward towards a more stable and hopeful future.
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