AI Tools and Family Court Confidentiality: What You Need to Know
Artificial Intelligence (AI) tools such as Chat GPT are becoming widely used and it is understandable why. They can answer questions quickly and provide information and general overview on an array of topics. But when it comes to family law, there are serious risk in relying on these tools – especially around data protection and confidentiality.
Why Family Court Proceedings Are Confidential
Family Court proceedings in England and Wales are private. That means that hearings are not open to the public and all parties to the proceedings have a duty to keep information confidential. This is of particular importance in children cases as identifying a child involved in proceedings is a criminal offence under the Children Act 1989. Sharing information without proper authorisation can lead to fines, or even imprisonment.
Unlike conversations with a Solicitor or Legal Executive, discussions with an AI platform are not legally privileged. In fact, there has already been a case in which a persons’ ChatGPT search history was accessed by others and used in evidence in family law proceedings.
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Why You Should Speak to a Family Law Solicitor
More concerningly, public AI platforms often store user data on external servers and use the inputted information to train future models. This means that any sensitive data input into the platforms such as ChatGPT will mostly likely be retained and is at risk of being accessed by others or exposed through data leaks or cyber-attacks. It is important to note that even if you pay for a subscription model (like ChatGPT-4) and opt out of data use for training, personal data may still be stored and at risk of exposure.
Family law cases are highly personal and involve the sharing of information about finances, relationships or children. If this sensitive information is leaked, the impact could be detrimental. Unlike Solicitors, who are bound by strict professional rules and legal privilege, AI platforms cannot guarantee confidentiality.
Whilst it is accepted that AI tools may be convenient for background reading, they are not suitable and should not be used for confidential specific family law discussions. Protecting your privacy is not optional – it is a legal duty. For advice that is both confidential and legally privileged, you should always speak with a qualified Solicitor or Legal Executive.
Contact our Family Law Solicitors for Advice
If need assistance with family law issues, contact our team today on 01924 290 029 or contact us using our online enquiry form. We can provide confidential, expert advice and ensure your information is protected at every stage.
Family Law Solicitors FAQs
Yes. Most family court proceedings in England and Wales are private, and there are strict legal rules about sharing information from a case with third parties. Thornton Jones Solicitors suggest seeking legal advice before discussing your case outside your legal team.
You should only discuss your case with professionals who are bound by confidentiality, such as your solicitor or barrister. Thornton Jones Solicitors suggest keeping all case details within your legal team to avoid accidental breaches of court rules.
A family law solicitor can provide confidential, legally privileged advice tailored to your situation and guide you through the family court process. Thornton Jones Solicitors suggest speaking to a qualified family law solicitor as early as possible to protect your position.
Family court proceedings and documents are generally confidential. Thornton Jones Solicitors suggest never sharing details or documents with anyone outside your legal team, including on social media, as this could breach court rules and lead to serious penalties.
You can share information with your legal representatives, other parties to the case, expert witnesses appointed by the court, and certain officials like CAFCASS officers. Thornton Jones Solicitors suggest checking with your solicitor before sharing any details to ensure you remain compliant with court rules.
Accredited journalists and legal bloggers may sometimes attend family court hearings, but strict rules apply to protect anonymity — no identifying information about parties or children may be published without a court order. Thornton Jones Solicitors suggest seeking legal advice if you are unsure about reporting or sharing information from a hearing.
Yes – most public AI tools store user data on external servers and often use inputted data to train future models. Even paid versions cannot guarantee full confidentiality.
Your data could be accessed by others, leaked in a cyber-attack, or misused.
As long as you avoid sharing personal details. AI can be useful for summarising general concepts, but never for confidential or case-specific discussions.
The content of this blog post is for information only and does not constitute formal legal advice and should not be relied upon as advice. Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited accepts no liability for any such reliance upon this content. Where the post includes links to external websites, Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited accepts no responsibility for the content of such sites. Any link to a third-party website should not be construed as endorsement by Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited of any content, products or services which are outside our direct control.
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25 Bank Street
Ossett
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Contact our Family Law Solicitors in Sherburn in Elmet, Leeds
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Sherburn in Elmet
Leeds
LS25 6EA
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Legal Insight: Andy Carroll Case Highlights Serious Consequences of Breaching Protective Orders
Recent reports that former England footballer Andy Carroll is due to appear in court after being charged with breaching a non-molestation order serves as an important reminder of the seriousness with which the family courts (and criminal justice system) treat protective injunctions.
What is a Non-Molestation Order?
A non-molestation order is a civil court order designed to protect individuals from harassment, intimidation or unwanted contact, often in the context of family or former partner relationships. Breaching such an order is not merely a civil matter, it constitutes a criminal offence, carrying the potential for arrest, charge and prosecution.
According to reports, Mr Carroll was arrested and charged following an alleged breach of an existing order and is expected to appear before the magistrates’ court. Whilst the details of the case will be a matter for the court to determine, the situation underscores how strictly these orders are enforced, regardless of an individual’s public profile or background.
From a family law perspective, this case highlights the importance of fully understanding the terms of any court order of this nature. Non-molestation orders can prohibit direct or indirect contact, including messages sent via third parties or social media, and even unintentional breaches can result in serious legal consequences.
For those protected by such orders, the case also reinforces the availability of swift enforcement where boundaries are crossed. The courts view breaches as a matter of safeguarding and will act robustly to uphold protections put in place.
If you are concerned about your safety, need advice on applying for a non-molestation order or advice on a non-molestation order which has been made against you, or if you have any queries in relation to the breach of an existing order, it is vital to seek specialist legal advice as early as possible. Our experienced family law team can guide you through the process, explain your rights and obligations and provide clear, practical support during what can be a highly stressful time.
To speak confidentially with one of our family law experts, please contact our team today on 01924 290 029.
Non-Molestation Order FAQs
Breaching a non-molestation order is a criminal offence under English law. Penalties can include a fine, community order or imprisonment, depending on the seriousness of the breach. Thornton Jones Solicitors advice is to seek immediate legal guidance if you are accused of breaching an order.
Yes, non-molestation orders can prohibit both direct and indirect contact. This may include contact through third parties, social media, emails or text messages. Even unintended contact can amount to a breach if it falls within the terms of the order. Thornton Jones Solicitors advice is to carefully review the wording of the order and obtain legal advice to avoid accidental breaches.
An application for a non-molestation order is made to the family court and can often be done urgently if there is an immediate risk of harm. Evidence of harassment, threats or abuse will usually be required, and the court may grant an order without notice in serious cases. Thornton Jones Solicitors advice is to speak to a family law solicitor to ensure your application is properly prepared and supported.
The content of this blog post is for information only and does not constitute formal legal advice and should not be relied upon as advice. Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited accepts no liability for any such reliance upon this content. Where the post includes links to external websites, Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited accepts no responsibility for the content of such sites. Any link to a third-party website should not be construed as endorsement by Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited of any content, products or services which are outside our direct control.
Contact our Family Law Solicitors in Garforth, Leeds
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Westbourne House
99 Lidgett Lane
Garforth
Leeds
LS25 1LJ
Tel: 0113 246 4423
Fax: 0113 831 4929
Email: enquiries@thorntonjones.co.uk
Contact our Family Law Solicitors in Wakefield
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Bank House
1 Burton Street
Wakefield
WF1 2GF
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Contact our Family Law Solicitors in Ossett, Wakefield
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25 Bank Street
Ossett
WF5 8PS
Tel: 01924 586466
Fax: 01924 290240
Email: enquiries@thorntonjones.co.uk
Contact our Family Law Solicitors in Sherburn in Elmet, Leeds
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6 Finkle Hill
Sherburn in Elmet
Leeds
LS25 6EA
Tel: 01977 350500
Fax: 0113 831 4929
Email: enquiries@thorntonjones.co.uk
The Cost of Living Crisis: How Financial Pressure Is Delaying Divorce and Separation
The ongoing cost of living crisis is affecting households across the UK, leaving many people facing difficult choices about their future. One of the areas where we are seeing the biggest impact is family separation.
Financial Barriers to Divorce During the Cost of Living Crisis
For many couples, the financial strain of everyday life has made the idea of funding a divorce or separation feel overwhelming. Rising housing costs, increased household bills, and uncertainty around future finances are leading some people to delay making important decisions about their relationships. As a result, many feel trapped in situations that are no longer healthy or sustainable, simply because they are worried they cannot afford to move forward.
At Thornton Jones Solicitors we recognise the immense pressure the rising cost of living is placing on families. No one should feel stuck in a relationship because they believe they cannot afford to speak to a solicitor.
Couples considering divorce or separation may find that the Budget does not offer the financial relief they were hoping for. Instead, many are left questioning whether now is the right time to begin the process, worried that legal fees, new housing arrangements, or changes to benefits and tax allowances could make an already difficult situation even more overwhelming.
Why Delaying Divorce or Separation Can Create Further Strain
While it’s understandable that people are reluctant to take on additional expenses during a cost of living crisis, delaying important decisions about your future can bring its own challenges, including the following:
- Financial entanglement: Joint debts, shared mortgages, and combined bills can become even more complicated the longer separation is postponed.
- Increased emotional stress: Living in an unhappy or unstable home environment can have a long-term impact on both adults and children.
- Rising Housing Costs: With rents and mortgage rates increasing, securing suitable and affordable housing after separation can be harder if plans are delayed. Acting early can provide more time to explore options or seek mortgage advice.
- Potential for Larger Costs Later: When conflict builds over time, separating later can become more contentious and therefore more expensive. Early advice can help set clear expectations and avoid unnecessary disputes.
Seeking early legal advice can help you understand your position clearly, even if you’re not ready to proceed immediately, so that you can plan ahead with confidence.
Understanding Your Options When It Comes to Divorce
Divorce Week is a time to shine a light on the realities of separation and to help people understand that there’s no single “right” way to divorce. Every relationship and family is different, and so is every path to resolution. Read more…
Fixed-Fee Divorce and Separation Advice During the Cost of Living Crisis
At Thornton Jones Solicitors, we believe that everyone deserves access to clear, supportive legal advice. Our fixed-fee initial appointments are designed to help you understand your rights, responsibilities, and options without feeling burdened by uncertainty over costs.
During your appointment, we can help you:
- Understand the likely financial implications of Divorce & Separation.
- Explore options such as mediation or collaborative law, which can be more cost-effective.
- Plan for housing, child arrangements, and long-term financial security.
- Make informed decisions that support your wellbeing and future stability.
Speaking to a solicitor does not mean you must proceed with a divorce, it’s simply the first step towards understanding your options. Knowledge brings confidence, and even preliminary advice can make a difficult situation feel more manageable.
“I was very fortunate to have had Jane Auty recommended to me, and she absolutely justified that recommendation. From our first meeting she was helpful, direct, and sympathetic in a combination that made working with her reassuring and effective. She was really helpful in providing the sort of robust guidance that led to a quick and effective resolution.“ – Aidan Cook via Review Solicitors
Call us today to speak with our Divorce and Separation Lawyers
To book a fixed-fee appointment or to find out how we can support you, contact Thornton Jones Solicitors today on 01924 290 029. Our experienced family law team is here to provide clear, practical advice and help you take the next step with confidence, at a pace that feels right for you.
Divorce and Separation FAQs
Yes, financial pressures can make divorce or separation feel overwhelming. Thornton Jones Solicitors suggest that many couples postpone taking action due to concerns about legal fees, housing costs, or changes to benefits. Thornton Jones Solicitors advise that seeking early legal guidance, even if you are not ready to proceed immediately, can help you understand your options and plan effectively for the future.
Thornton Jones Solicitors suggest exploring fixed-fee initial appointments, which provide clear and practical advice without uncertainty over costs. Thornton Jones Solicitors advise that even a brief consultation can help you understand your rights, financial implications, and potential next steps, ensuring you are better prepared to make informed decisions about divorce or separation.
Delaying divorce or separation can increase financial and emotional strain. Thornton Jones Solicitors suggest that postponing action may complicate shared debts, housing arrangements, and child-related decisions. Thornton Jones Solicitors advise that obtaining early legal advice can reduce conflict, clarify your responsibilities, and help you develop a manageable plan for moving forward.
The content of this blog post is for information only and does not constitute formal legal advice and should not be relied upon as advice. Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited accepts no liability for any such reliance upon this content. Where the post includes links to external websites, Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited accepts no responsibility for the content of such sites. Any link to a third-party website should not be construed as endorsement by Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited of any content, products or services which are outside our direct control.
Contact our Divorce Solicitors in Garforth, Leeds
Thornton Jones Solicitors
Westbourne House
99 Lidgett Lane
Garforth
Leeds
LS25 1LJ
Tel: 0113 246 4423
Fax: 0113 831 4929
Email: enquiries@thorntonjones.co.uk
Contact our Divorce Solicitors in Wakefield
Thornton Jones Solicitors
Bank House
1 Burton Street
Wakefield
WF1 2GF
Tel: 01924 290029
Fax: 01924 290240
Email: enquiries@thorntonjones.co.uk
Contact our Divorce Solicitors in Ossett, Wakefield
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25 Bank Street
Ossett
WF5 8PS
Tel: 01924 586466
Fax: 01924 290240
Email: enquiries@thorntonjones.co.uk
Contact our Divorce Solicitors in Sherburn in Elmet, Leeds
Thornton Jones Solicitors
6 Finkle Hill
Sherburn in Elmet
Leeds
LS25 6EA
Tel: 01977 350500
Fax: 0113 831 4929
Email: enquiries@thorntonjones.co.uk
Last-Minute Co-Parenting Christmas Checklist
Whether you’re struggling to find an agreement in time or just want to keep things simple, this checklist will guide you through the essentials for a smooth Christmas.
The festive season can be stressful for separated parents, especially at the last minute. This checklist helps you plan handovers, manage routines, and keep the focus on your children’s happiness, even when time is tight.
1. Confirm the Basic Plan
Start by locking in the essential arrangements so both parents have clarity and the children know what to expect.
- Agree Christmas Day arrangements — Who will have the children on Christmas Eve? Christmas Day? Boxing Day?
- Discuss any travel logistics — Will you be swapping homes? Is there distance to travel? Who is responsible for the journey?
- Set clear handover times and locations — Include drop-off/pick-up times and places, making sure both parents are on the same page.
2. Focus on the Children’s Well-Being
Keep the children at the centre of your planning by prioritising stability, reassurance and familiar routines.
- Reassure the children — Let them know both parents are working together to make the holidays enjoyable, even if things aren’t perfect.
- Maintain routines — Try to preserve familiar routines (bedtimes, mealtimes, etc.) so children feel secure during the transition.
- Clarify gifts — Agree on a gift-buying approach (e.g. no competition, a price limit, or simply “one present each”).
3. Keep Communication Simple & Positive
Effective communication can prevent misunderstandings, so aim to keep conversations practical, respectful and focused on the children.
- Use a neutral tone — Keep conversations short, direct, and focused on logistics. Avoid discussing past conflicts.
- Confirm final arrangements in writing — A brief message or email summarising the agreed plan helps prevent misunderstandings.
- Check-in on the children’s emotional needs — Have a quick conversation with the other parent about anything special the children need during the holidays.
4. Plan for Flexibility & Compromise
If things feel tight or unsettled, a little flexibility can help you reach a workable plan that meets everyone’s needs this year.
- Be open to temporary arrangements — If you can’t agree on everything, be flexible. Consider alternative plans that work for both sides, even if they’re only for this year.
- Offer a “second Christmas” celebration — If one parent can’t have the children on the actual day, agree to celebrate on a different day.
- Make room for both families — Ensure there’s time for both sides of the family to see the children, even if it’s just a quick visit or video call.
5. Avoid Stressing the Children
Protect children from tension by keeping adult issues separate and presenting a calm, united approach throughout the holidays.
- Keep the kids out of the negotiation — Don’t ask them to choose between parents or feel caught in the middle.
- Maintain a united front — Whether or not you agree on everything, present a calm, positive attitude to the children about the holidays.
6. Final Preparations
- Prepare holiday bags for the children — Make sure they have everything they need when moving between homes (gifts, clothes, toiletries, favourite toys, etc.).
- Double-check any special plans — If you’re arranging for a visit to extended family, confirm the details early to avoid last-minute confusion.
- Take a deep breath — Give yourself credit for getting this far. The most important thing is that the children feel loved and supported.
A few last checks can make the handovers smoother and ensure the children feel comfortable and cared for between homes.
7. Plan for the Future
Once Christmas is over, consider how to make next year easier by setting time aside to discuss longer-term arrangements.
- Set a date for a follow-up mediation session in the New Year — Mediation can help you make more permanent arrangements for the future, reducing stress for the next holiday season.
Remember: The holiday season doesn’t need to be perfect, but it does need to be filled with understanding, patience, and good will. The children are watching how you manage the transition, and your example will help them feel safe and loved.
How Can Family Mediation Help With Child Arrangements Over Christmas?
excitement builds. The festive season is a time of joy, celebration and family get-togethers, particularly for children who eagerly await the magic of Christmas however, for separated parents, it can also be a period of stress and conflict, particularly when there is no clear plan in place for when children will spend time with each parent.
Co-Parenting Christmas Checklist FAQs
Thornton Jones Solicitors suggest starting with a calm and practical conversation to agree on handover times, travel logistics, and who will have the children on each day. Even if time is short, putting agreements in writing, via email or text, can prevent misunderstandings. Prioritise the children’s routines and emotional needs, and consider mediation if you struggle to reach a compromise.
Thornton Jones Solicitors advise maintaining familiar routines, such as bedtimes and mealtimes, and reassuring children that both parents are working together to make the holidays enjoyable. Keep conversations positive and avoid discussing conflicts in front of the children. Small gestures, like packing favourite toys or planning a special activity, can also help them feel secure and loved during transitions between homes.
Thornton Jones Solicitors suggest remaining flexible and open to temporary arrangements, such as celebrating on a different day or making time for visits with both sides of the family. If disagreements arise, focus on solutions that prioritise the children’s enjoyment and emotional well-being. Agreeing in advance on a “Plan B” can make last-minute changes less stressful and help ensure a positive holiday for everyone involved.
The content of this blog post is for information only and does not constitute formal legal advice and should not be relied upon as advice. Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited accepts no liability for any such reliance upon this content. Where the post includes links to external websites, Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited accepts no responsibility for the content of such sites. Any link to a third-party website should not be construed as endorsement by Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited of any content, products or services which are outside our direct control.
Why Your ‘Final Order’ Isn’t Final: Understanding Divorce Terminology in 2025
The way we talk about divorce has changed significantly since the introduction of no-fault divorce in April 2022. While the reform aimed to simplify the process and make it less confrontational, the new terminology, especially around the final order of divorce, is still causing confusion for many people going through separation.
This has meant that there has been an increasing number of people who understandably believe that their divorce is fully concluded once they receive their final order. Unfortunately, this is often not the case. In this blog, we explain why the language of divorce remains problematic and what you need to know to protect your financial position.
What Is a Final Order of Divorce?
A final order of divorce simply ends the marriage, and it does not resolve financial claims.
This means that even after your divorce has been finalised, your former spouse may still be able to make financial claims against you in the future unless a legally binding financial order is in place.
We regularly see cases where individuals mistakenly believe that the final order of divorce also brings their financial obligations to an end, when in reality, their financial claims remain open.
You can find out more about applying for a financial order by visiting our Divorce & Financial Settlements page.
What Is the Problem With the New Divorce Terminology?
Before 2022, divorce used long-established terms such as petition, petitioner, decree nisi and decree absolute. These terms have now been replaced with application, applicant, conditional order and final order.
The idea behind the change was positive as it aimed to make the process easier to understand and allow couples to apply for divorce online without needing a solicitor. However, some of the language chosen, particularly ‘final order’, creates a false sense of completion.
Navigating the Financial Disclosure Process in a Divorce: Where Do You Start?
Divorce can be a challenging and emotional time, with a lot to think about. One of the most significant aspects of the process is sorting out your finances. But where do you start? Understanding the financial disclosure process is crucial in ensuring a fair settlement, and in the UK, this often involves completing a Form E. Read more…
How Misunderstanding a Final Order Can Cause Real Life Problems
Misunderstanding the effect of a final order of divorce can give rise to a range of practical and financial difficulties for individuals following the breakdown of a marriage. Without a legally binding financial order, financial claims remain open indefinitely, regardless of how long ago the divorce was finalised. This can lead to significant issues, including:
- Uncertainty regarding property ownership and investment – Individuals may make financial decisions, such as investing in or disposing of property, on the assumption that their former spouse has no ongoing entitlement. In the absence of a financial order, those assumptions may be incorrect.
- Exposure to future financial claims – A former spouse may later pursue claims against income, savings, property, pensions or other assets acquired after the marriage has ended. This can be particularly problematic where an individual’s financial circumstances improve post-divorce.
- Complications arising on remarriage or new relationships – Entering into a new marriage without securing a financial order can limit a person’s ability to seek certain types of financial relief and may create unintended vulnerabilities should disputes arise later.
- Inheritance and pension implications – Without a financial order, issues relating to pension sharing or inheritance rights may remain unresolved, potentially affecting both parties and any dependants.
These risks highlight the importance of obtaining legal advice and securing a final, binding financial order rather than relying solely on the divorce final order, which deals only with the legal dissolution of the marriage and not its financial consequences.
Why Misunderstanding Is Becoming More Common
The Online Divorce System
The simplified digital process makes it easy for people to apply for a divorce without legal advice, often without realising that finances are a completely separate matter.
The Change in Terminology
Words like “final order” suggest something is complete and resolved when it is not. The language does not make the distinction between ending the marriage and settling the finances clear enough.
What Needs to Change?
There is increasing recognition that the language is too simplistic and is causing confusion. Clearer terminology would help individuals understand what their divorce actually does and, crucially, what it does not do.
At Thornton Jones Solicitors, we recommend that you do not apply for your final order until your financial arrangements are agreed or resolved. In some cases, delaying the final order can protect your position particularly when there are pensions.
What You Should Do If You’re Going Through Divorce?
Until clearer language is introduced, the safest approach is to always seek legal advice early. The move to no-fault divorce has made the separation process more accessible and less confrontational, which is undoubtedly positive. But unclear terminology continues to cause avoidable misunderstandings.
If you are considering divorce or are currently partway through the process, we strongly recommend seeking specialist advice to ensure your financial position is fully protected.
Final Order of Divorce FAQs
A final order of divorce is the legal document that formally ends your marriage. It replaces the old term decree absolute and confirms that the marriage has been dissolved in the eyes of the law. However, it is important to understand that while it ends the legal relationship, it does not deal with how your finances are divided.
Thornton Jones Solicitors say that many people mistakenly assume the final order brings all matters to a close, but without a separate financial order, financial claims remain open indefinitely.
Yes. A financial order is essential if you want to ensure that your financial ties with your former spouse are fully resolved. Without it, either party may still bring claims in the future, even years after the marriage has legally ended. These claims can relate to income, savings, pensions, property, business assets or investments acquired after the divorce.
Thornton Jones advise that securing a binding financial order provides certainty and protection, preventing unexpected claims and helping you plan for the future with confidence.
You can apply for the final order six weeks and one day after the conditional order (formerly known as the decree nisi) has been granted. This waiting period is intended to give both parties time to reflect and to deal with any outstanding issues, particularly financial matters.
Thornton Jones Solicitors say that it is often wise to delay applying for the final order until your financial arrangements are agreed or resolved, especially where pensions or property are involved, to avoid unintentionally weakening your financial position.
The content of this blog post is for information only and does not constitute formal legal advice and should not be relied upon as advice. Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited accepts no liability for any such reliance upon this content. Where the post includes links to external websites, Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited accepts no responsibility for the content of such sites. Any link to a third-party website should not be construed as endorsement by Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited of any content, products or services which are outside our direct control.
Divorce Week 2025: Understanding Your Options When It Comes to Divorce
Divorce Week is a time to shine a light on the realities of separation and to help people understand that there’s no single “right” way to divorce. Every relationship and family is different, and so is every path to resolution.
At Thornton Jones Solicitors, we know that divorce is never easy. But with the right information and support, it can be managed in a way that reduces stress, minimises conflict, and helps you move forward with clarity and confidence.
Here we explore the main options available to you when it comes to ending a marriage and how each one can help you reach a fair and workable outcome that suits you.
What Is Divorce Week?
Good Divorce Week is an annual national campaign that encourages open discussion about separation and raises awareness of the support that’s available. It’s not about promoting divorce it’s about helping people understand their options and make informed, confident choices for themselves and their families.
During this week, family law professionals, mediators, and counsellors across the country share advice and guidance to help individuals navigate the legal, emotional, and financial challenges of separation.
Mediation – What is Mediation?
Mediation involves meeting with an independent, professionally trained mediator who helps you both discuss and resolve key issues such as finances, properties, and child arrangements.
Choosing mediation gives you control over the outcome and encourages open communication between both parties, rather than having decisions imposed by a court. It’s usually quicker, less costly, and less stressful than traditional court proceedings.
At Thornton Jones, we can guide you through the mediation process, providing advice and support in attempting to help both parties reach an agreement.
Meet our Mediator
Shelley Wales qualified as a solicitor in 2001 and is a Partner and Head of Family Dispute Resolution.
Collaborative Law – What is Collaborative Law
A collaborative divorce is a forward-thinking approach that allows both parties and their Solicitors to work together to find solutions in a series of face to face 4-way meetings. Everyone commits to resolving the issues open and constructive dialogue without going to Court. This process allows you to handle complicated and contentious issues and find a mutually acceptable outcome with the assistance of their solicitor by their side. This can save time, money and prevent your divorce or separation from becoming unnecessarily acrimonious.
Meet our Collaborative Law Solicitor
Jane Auty qualified as a solicitor in 1997 and is a Partner and Head of Family Law here at Thornton Jones Solicitors.
Negotiation – What is negotiation in family law?
Some couples prefer to communicate directly, agree the terms of their separation and ask us to draft this up into a legally binding Court Order. This approach can work well when there’s mutual respect and willingness to reach agreement. It is, however, important to seek advice before making any agreements legally binding.
At Thornton Jones, we can formalise agreements and draft the appropriate Court Order setting out the terms of the agreement reached.
Court Proceedings – What are Court Proceedings in Family Law?
Sometimes, court proceedings are necessary, particularly where communication has broken down, there are complex financial issues, or safeguarding concerns exist.
In these cases, our experienced family solicitors will represent you with sensitivity and strength, ensuring your rights and interests are protected throughout the process.
While court proceedings can take longer and be more formal, they offer structure, transparency, and legal enforceability where other methods may not be suitable.
One Couple, One Lawyer: Collaboration not Conflict
More and more separating and divorcing couples are choosing a new, kinder way to navigate the process of divorce and separation, one that puts communication and cooperation before courtroom battles. That’s where the One Couple, One Lawyer Model comes in. At Thornton Jones Solicitors, we know that divorce doesn’t have to mean war. Read more…
Finding the Right Path for You
Choosing the right route for your divorce depends on your circumstances, communication with your former partner, and what feels right for your family.
At Thornton Jones Solicitors, we take the time to understand your situation and explain all your options clearly. Whether your separation is amicable or more complex, our friendly and experienced Family Law team will guide you through the process, helping you make informed decisions and move forward with confidence.
If you’d like to speak to one of our Family Law specialists, please get in touch today.
A Message for Good Divorce Week 2025
Good Divorce Week 2025 is a reminder that separation doesn’t have to mean conflict or confusion. With the right advice and support, it can be the start of a more positive chapter. If you’d like to speak to one of our friendly family law specialists in confidence, please get in touch. We’re here to help you take the next step with clarity, confidence, and care.
Divorce Week 2025 FAQs
When separating, you can choose from several routes including mediation, collaborative law, One Lawyer, or traditional legal representation. Thornton Jones Solicitors say “It’s important to explore all your options early so you can decide on the best approach for your circumstances and maintain a constructive relationship where possible.”
Mediation allows couples to discuss arrangements for children, finances, and property in a calm, confidential setting with the help of a trained mediator. Thornton Jones advise that “Mediation can reduce conflict and cost, helping you reach an agreement that feels fair and practical for both sides.”
Even in an amicable divorce, legal advice ensures your financial settlement and child arrangements are properly recorded and legally binding. Thornton Jones Solicitors explain “A solicitor can help you formalise your agreement so you can move forward with clarity and peace of mind.”
Support can include legal advice, counselling, financial planning, and mediation services. Thornton Jones say “We work closely with counsellors, mediators, and financial advisors to ensure our clients receive well-rounded support that addresses both the legal and emotional sides of separation.”
The content of this blog post is for information only and does not constitute formal legal advice and should not be relied upon as advice. Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited accepts no liability for any such reliance upon this content. Where the post includes links to external websites, Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited accepts no responsibility for the content of such sites. Any link to a third-party website should not be construed as endorsement by Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited of any content, products or services which are outside our direct control.
Divorce Week 2025: Finding the Right Support When Relationships End
Every January, Divorce Week shines a spotlight on the realities of relationship breakdowns and the support available for those considering separation or divorce. For many, the new year is a time for reflection and sometimes, difficult decisions about the future.
At Thornton Jones Solicitors, we understand that deciding to separate is not always easy. Whether you’re taking the first steps or are already in the process, having the right legal and emotional support can make all the difference. Good Divorce Week 2025 is a timely reminder that help is available and that you don’t have to face this alone.
What Is Divorce Week?
Good Divorce Week is an annual national campaign that encourages open discussion about separation and raises awareness of the support that’s available. It’s not about promoting divorce it’s about helping people understand their options and make informed, confident choices for themselves and their families.
During this week, family law professionals, mediators, and counsellors across the country share advice and guidance to help individuals navigate the legal, emotional, and financial challenges of separation.
Why Does Support Matter During Separation?
Divorce affects more than just your legal status. It can have far-reaching emotional, financial, and practical impacts especially when children are involved. Without the right support, it can certainly feel overwhelming.
Seeking early advice can help you:-
- Understand your rights and options before making key decisions
- Reduce conflict and promote constructive communication
- Prioritise your children’s wellbeing
- Protect your finances and plan for the future
- Find emotional and practical support to move forward confidently
At Thornton Jones, our experienced family lawyers are here to guide you through every step, offering clarity, reassurance, and practical solutions tailored to your circumstances.
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Types of Support Available When Separating
Legal Guidance
Our expert family law team can assist you with all aspects of separation and divorce, including:-
- Divorce and dissolution proceedings
- Financial settlements
- Child arrangements and parenting plans
- Mediation, collaborative law, working together with One Lawyer
- Prenuptial and postnuptial agreements
We believe in a constructive and compassionate approach that focuses on achieving fair outcomes without any unnecessary conflict.
Emotional and Wellbeing Support
We often work alongside counsellors, therapists, and other legal professionals (such as Mediators and Collaborative Lawyers) to ensure our clients have the holistic support they need. Talking to a professional can help you process emotions, manage stress, and make clear, considered decisions.
Financial and Practical Advice
Separation can bring financial uncertainty. We can connect you with trusted financial advisors who can help with budgeting, asset division, pensions, and long-term planning, giving you peace of mind for the future.
How We Can Help During Good Divorce Week 2025 and Beyond
If you’re considering separation, this week is a good opportunity to seek expert confidential, no-obligation advice. At Thornton Jones, we offer:
- Initial consultations to discuss your situation and outline your options
- Clear, transparent pricing so you can plan with confidence
- Tailored legal strategies that focus on your goals and your family’s wellbeing
We understand that every family is unique. Our role is to listen, advise, and support you with compassion and professionalism throughout the process.
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A Message for Divorce Week 2025
Good Divorce Week 2025 is a reminder that separation doesn’t have to mean conflict or confusion. With the right advice and support, it can be the start of a more positive chapter. If you’d like to speak to one of our friendly family law specialists in confidence, please get in touch. We’re here to help you take the next step with clarity, confidence, and care.
Divorce Week 2025 FAQs
When separating, you can choose from several routes including mediation, collaborative law, One Lawyer, or traditional legal representation. Thornton Jones Solicitors say “It’s important to explore all your options early so you can decide on the best approach for your circumstances and maintain a constructive relationship where possible.”
Mediation allows couples to discuss arrangements for children, finances, and property in a calm, confidential setting with the help of a trained mediator. Thornton Jones advise that “Mediation can reduce conflict and cost, helping you reach an agreement that feels fair and practical for both sides.”
Even in an amicable divorce, legal advice ensures your financial settlement and child arrangements are properly recorded and legally binding. Thornton Jones Solicitors explain “A solicitor can help you formalise your agreement so you can move forward with clarity and peace of mind.”
Support can include legal advice, counselling, financial planning, and mediation services. Thornton Jones say “We work closely with counsellors, mediators, and financial advisors to ensure our clients receive well-rounded support that addresses both the legal and emotional sides of separation.”
The content of this blog post is for information only and does not constitute formal legal advice and should not be relied upon as advice. Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited accepts no liability for any such reliance upon this content. Where the post includes links to external websites, Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited accepts no responsibility for the content of such sites. Any link to a third-party website should not be construed as endorsement by Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited of any content, products or services which are outside our direct control.
Collaborative Law: A more amicable approach to divorce
Collaborative Law offers couples a constructive way to navigate divorce, putting them in control of decisions and reducing conflict. Instead of facing lengthy court battles, parties work together with legal and financial professionals to resolve issues calmly, protecting relationships and supporting a smoother transition for both families and finances.
Divorce can undoubtedly be one of the most traumatic, stressful events in life, leading to fears and uncertainty over the future, upheaval whilst coping with a mixture of emotions from grief, bitterness, and anxiety. Sadly divorce is a common experience.
The Office for National Statistics in 2023 show 103,816 legal partnership dissolutions, with 102,678 divorces and 1,138 civil partnerships. Couples are faced with navigating the strain of an adversarial legal process but also the emotional fallout of the ending of a relationship.
A divorce can undoubtedly lead to hostilities, angry exchanges and a long court process, however a growing number of couples are finding ways to separate in a more amicably way. A collaborative law approach can provide both parties with legal support but other professionals such as financial advisors, life coaches who can assist parties in sitting around a table to agree all aspects of divorce finances and children without having to set foot in a court.
The collaborative approach involves a commitment to avoiding court to enable parties to work together to resolve issues around a financial settlement between them by agreement rather than having this imposed upon them. It puts both parties in control of decision making and emphasizes effective, calm, and rational communication in a confidential and safe environment, which helps to reduce conflict and emotional impact.
The emphasis on cooperation and respect helps to maintain an amicable relationship between couples, which is vital for continued co-parenting and future interaction.
Mediation. An alternative method to dispute resolution
Family Mediation can help you resolve the issues surrounding your separation or divorce in a constructive and amicable way, which usually helps you both to move on with your lives in a way that traditional ways of resolving disputes cannot. Mediation is just one of many alternative dispute resolution approaches.
Contact our Collaborative Law specialists in Yorkshire
If you would like to know more, Jane Auty, Partner and Head of Family Law offers a free 15 minute telephone consultation. To book or to find out more please contact our Client Relations Team on 0113 246 4423 (please select option 1) or email us at clientrelationsteam@thorntonjones.co.uk or ask a question using our online enquiry form.
The content of this blog post is for information only and does not constitute formal legal advice and should not be relied upon as advice. Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited accepts no liability for any such reliance upon this content. Where the post includes links to external websites, Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited accepts no responsibility for the content of such sites. Any link to a third-party website should not be construed as endorsement by Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited of any content, products or services which are outside our direct control.
Child Arrangements Over the Summer Holidays – A Mediation Perspective
For children, as the summer holidays fast approach, excitement builds. For separated parents, it can be a period of stress, frustration and conflict, particularly when there is no clear plan in place for when children will spend time with each parent.
This time of year especially, given that the school holidays often feel like they last a lifetime, can become challenging, emotionally charged and overwhelming for parents. Navigating this can be incredibly difficult.
As such, many families struggle to agree when the children will be with each parent and some may even feel they bear the brunt of the responsibility of caring for the children, or organising childcare, during the school holidays.
Both parents have equal rights and responsibilities to their children meaning they both have the same right to spend time with their children and the same duty to care for them. There is no Law in place that guarantees both parents have to be responsible for childcare during school holidays unless, of course, there is a Court Order already in place which specifically deals with such issues.
What should separated parents do if they can’t agree on child arrangements over the summer holidays?
If separated parents can’t agree on summer holiday arrangements, they should first try open, cooperative communication. If that fails, family mediation offers a faster, more affordable, and child-focused alternative to court. Thornton Jones Solicitors advise that early communication and, where needed, professional mediation are key to resolving summer child arrangements without court.
Steps to resolve summer holiday child arrangements
- Start discussions early with the other parent.
- Focus on the children’s needs and preferences.
- Use parenting apps to support clear communication.
- Consider family mediation if discussions stall.
- Check if you qualify for the government mediation voucher.
Common Challenges with Summer Child Arrangements
During the summer holidays, co-parenting challenges often become more pronounced. Without a clear and mutually agreed plan, tensions can rise and communication may break down. Some of the most frequent issues separated parents face at this time of year include:
- Unequal division of school holiday time – Tensions can rise when one parent feels they’re getting significantly less time with the children. This imbalance can feel unfair and may lead to ongoing conflict.
- One parent refusing to assist with childcare – If one parent refuses to help with childcare or assumes the other will manage alone, it can cause frustration and resentment, especially when both parents are working.
- Children’s wishes conflicting with one parent’s plans – Older children may express preferences that don’t align with one parent’s expectations, leading to disappointment or conflict around autonomy and decision-making.
- Disagreements over childcare or activity costs – Disputes may arise over who pays for summer clubs, trips, or childcare, especially when financial arrangements haven’t been clearly agreed.
- Changes to usual handover arrangements – Summer holidays often require adjusted handovers due to trips or altered work patterns. If not agreed in advance, this can cause confusion or missed contact.
- Holiday plans that don’t fit within agreed timeframes – A parent may want to take the children away during a period not allocated to them, leading to disputes over fairness or consent.
- Issues related to new partners or blended families – Introducing new family dynamics over the holidays—such as partners or step-siblings—can trigger emotional or practical complications.
- Lack of clarity in existing parenting plans or court orders – If parenting agreements are vague or silent on summer holidays, parents may struggle to interpret what’s “fair” without further guidance or mediation.
How to Navigate Co-Parenting During School Holidays
There will need to be a good level of communication and compromise. Be flexible and accommodating, whilst maintaining the children’s emotional stability. The considerations of the children should be considered. It is important to listen to the children’s views, however it is then for the parents to weigh up and consider those views so that they as parents can make decisions. After all, these arrangements are ultimately about them. Keeping children informed about the arrangements their parents have agreed for them can also relieve any anxiety or uncertainty they may have and will allow them to enjoy the holidays without worry. You should consider the children’s needs when making plans, bearing in mind their routines, preferences, and desires . Focus on creating a sense of stability and consistency for them, even if it means compromising on your own preferred schedule or plans.
Tips for Communicating with Your Co-Parent
We acknowledge this can be difficult when each parent has work commitments, but your first step should be to open up a line of communication with the other parent, giving plenty of time for discussions to take place, from a position of cooperation and conciliation – it will make decisions much easier. Remember: tone can easily be misinterpreted in texts and emails, so they may not be the most effective forms of communication. Try to communicate with the other parent face-to-face if possible or, for example, via video call. There are also various parenting apps which aid in communication between parents.
Mediation and School Holidays – What to do when there is no agreement in place
If direct discussions reach an impasse when attempting to agree the arrangements for your children, Mediation can provide a neutral ground to explore possible solutions. With the help of a trained Mediator, separated parents can work towards a plan that focusses on the happiness and well-being of their children.
Key Benefits of Family Mediation:
Mediation offers a faster, more affordable, and more collaborative alternative to Court. It empowers both parents to stay in control of the decision-making process whilst prioritising their children’s best interests. The three biggest advantages are:-
- Lower cost – far more affordable than Court proceedings
- Faster resolution – avoids long Court timescales
- Better outcomes – agreements made by parents tend to work better than Court-imposed Orders
The Government has, for quite some time now, been running a voucher scheme to help towards the cost of joint Mediation sessions relating to child arrangements. This voucher is a one-off payment of up to £500.00 i.e. £250.00 per parent. This voucher can be used towards the first joint Mediation session, making Mediation an even more cost-effective way forward.
The Extended Family Mediation Voucher Scheme
Find out more about the Family Mediation Voucher Scheme including the benefits and how to find out if you are eligible by reading this Blog by Stacey Higgs, Family Law Paralegal.
Remember, co-parenting during the summer doesn’t have to be a battle. With open communication, flexibility, and, where necessary, support from a trained mediator, you can build a plan that puts your children first and reduces conflict for everyone involved.
Some Useful Resources
The National Association of Child Contact Centres (NACCC) was founded in Nottingham in 1991 with the establishment of the first Child Contact Centre. It is a registered charity, and an umbrella organisation which sets the National Standards to which Child Contact Centres must work. NACCC, in collaboration with Our Family Wizard, has developed a Parenting Plan Template that aims to cover most of the issues that might arise after you have separated so that you can co-parent effectively.
OurFamilyWizard invented the concept of a shared parenting application. Its website, iOS, and Android applications have been used by nearly one million people since the company was founded in 2001. The platform allows parents to communicate, share calendars and journals, track expenses, and more. OurFamilyWizard is recommended by family law attorneys, mental health practitioners and courts in all 50 U.S. states, Canada, the United Kingdom, Australia and New Zealand.
Cafcass advises the family courts about the welfare of children and what is in their best interests. Their Parenting Plan can be accessed and completed online. Cafcass say “A Parenting Plan can help because it shows clearly what arrangements and actions you have agreed to meet the needs of your child. Agreeing a plan can avoid you having to go to court to reach such an agreement or have arrangements ordered by the court. Agreeing a plan shows your child that you are putting them first and will always act in their best interests.”
Contact our Family Law team here at Thornton Jones
Our friendly and experienced family law team at Thornton Jones Solicitors is here to help. Contact us at any of our offices to discuss your situation further and to book an appointment.
Family Mediation Frequently Asked Questions
MIAM stands for Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting, and it is an initial meeting between yourself and a qualified Family Mediator. The purpose of a MIAM is to assess whether your issues can be resolved through the use of Family Mediation, negating the need to take your matter to Court.
A Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM) is held between just you and the Mediator. The other party would not be present. The other party would also need to attend a MIAM to formally assess their suitability for Family Mediation and, assuming both assessments provide a favourable outcome, the Mediator will recommend pursuing Family Mediation as a way forward.
A 2020 survey undertaken by the Family Mediation Council showed that “Mediation is successful in over 70% of cases”. This means that in over 70% of cases, separating and divorcing couples were able to reach an outcome through the use of Family Mediation and without the need to take their matter through the expensive, stressful, and time-consuming Court process.
Although there are no strict rules over who pays for Family Mediation, it is typical for all costs to be shared equally. Your Family Mediator will set out the costs for Mediation at the outset so that you are aware of how much the mediation process will cost. The fees for mediation will vary depending on whether you are seeking mediation services for financial matters only, mediation services for children’s matters only, or mediation services for all matters. The costs for mediation will also be dependent upon the number of mediation sessions required to reach an outcome.
For eligible parties, vouchers towards the cost of mediation are available up to the value of £500 (claimed by the mediator on your behalf and apply only where discussions around child arrangements are required) through the Government’s Family Mediation Voucher Scheme.
There is no fixed term for how long family mediation takes. The process can take anywhere from just a few weeks to many months. How long mediation takes depends on the type and complexity of the issues needing to be resolved. Typically, Mediation achieves a quicker resolution than that of the traditional Court route. Mediation can also reduce costs and associated stress.
If mediation doesn’t work, then there are a few options. Arbitration is a good way of having a third-party preside over the facts of the case and make a decision on your behalf.
The arbitrator will make a decision using the same judgement criteria as a Court however comes without the timescale considerations, the increased costs, and the ruling of a Judge when pursuing the court route. Arbitration dos require both partied to be amenable to this route to resolution. If this isn’t the case, then often litigation through the Courts is necessary.
Another way forward is an Early Neutral evaluation, or Collaborative Law, or having a private Judge (in financial matters) assist by providing an indication and guidance as to how the family assets should be shared.
Family Lawyers, and indeed the Ministry of Justice, are keen to keep divorce matters out of court. It is proven that the use of Alternative Dispute Resolution, which includes Mediation, Collaborate Law, and Arbitration, is a far quicker, cheaper, and less stressful route to resolution. This approach also fosters a better future relationship between the divorcing parties which is especially beneficial where children are involved.
The content of this blog post is for information only and does not constitute formal legal advice. It should not be relied upon as advice. Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited accepts no liability for any such reliance upon this content. Where the post includes links to external websites, Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited accepts no responsibility for the content of such sites. Any link to a third-party website should not be construed as endorsement by Thornton Jones Solicitors Limited of any content, products or services which are outside our direct control.
